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The Parent Manual

Posted by Karen Murphy on

I am always so hesitant to even mention parenting since I am not one! Well, I parent two miniature schnauzers and yes, they very much act like children in many ways—especially talking back.

I can’t begin to recall the number of times I have heard it said “I sure wish my child came with a manual” or “I sure wish I had that parenting manual right about now.” Periodically, I come across some really good “tips” and insights and I find myself thinking, “if I were a parent….” That being said, I thought it might be fun to begin our own UBC parenting manual.

Recently, I received this article from The National Center for Biblical Parenting and found it extremely timely since just this past Sunday we challenged our 11:00 DiscipleTown kids to pray about who God might want them to serve this week. Our Bible lesson was on Jesus washing the feet of his disciples.

Parenting Tip: Servant For The Day

This parenting tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids, by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. Tell us how this has worked in your family!

Children often compete with each other in order to be first or best. This tendency on the part of children comes from selfishness, a major roadblock to sibling harmony. The solution is to learn how to be a servant, but how do you convince a five-year-old or a twelve-year-old that being a servant is a valuable thing?

As parents we have to look for positive ways to frame the maturity issues that we know are best, but seem unreasonable to our children. In this case, you might try having a “Servant for the Day.” This child not only sets the table and takes out the trash but also gets some extra “Mommy time,” helps with dinner, and sits next to Dad during story time. Throughout the course of the day, Mom has an opportunity to talk about more subtle aspects of servanthood that involve how children talk, listen, and even think.

Take time to praise demonstrations of servanthood. One child may not get the first turn or the biggest piece, but he gets the praise of Mom for being the mature one. That's a far more valuable reward.

Teaching children to be servants will promote harmony in your family. Becoming a servant will help children deal with the continual desire to build themselves up while putting others down. Learning servanthood is a way to honor others in the family and it brings honor back as well.


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